90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days

Previously on Before the 90 Days.

Whoa.

When I tell you I love you,

I don't hear back, "Oh, Nicola, I love you, too."

Well, I've been uncertain and worried

about what things were looking like.

If she's not sure in her life--

Don't worry.

You'll be--

I feel like we have a stronger connection now than we ever had before.

The K-1 visa is the only thing keeping us apart.

I love you, baby.

I am gonna put my faith

that he's gonna do whatever he has to do, because--

I really, really, really care about you a lot.

It may be deeper than caring.

I...

I...

Her not allowing me to say the "L" word--

This just might be the last time

Violet and I see each other in person.

So many things happened until this point.

It sounds like you don't even know

if you want to be together with me.

I don't know.

There's nothing, the way I approach women in a bar

that would lead them to think that I'm hitting on them.

So, are you still gonna be able to trust me, you think?

It's hard for me to trust Christian,

but I am completely terrified of losing him.

Seriously?

Dang, I don't know if I want kids.

I'm worried that if we want different things,

it could just be a waste of time.

I will have a child at some point,

whether I do it on my own or not.

If you have to have kids, I don't think it would work between us.

Dempsey.

Dempsey.

Dempsey.

Can we talk, or are you just packing in there?

Are you gonna leave without me? Like...

Why are you acting like-- can you freaking talk to me?

So, but like--

And that was-- That's just--

Uh, to make or break for our relationship.

You-You just said our relationship is not gonna work.

Like, I planned this romantic trip.

We're gonna part ways very soon,

and even though I didn't tell her earlier

that I didn't want kids,

she didn't tell me either that she definitely did.

I had no clue that Dempsey was so adamant about becoming a mother.

But, I do know that I don't wanna lose her over this.

Why are you so upset?

Because you just said it's make or break.

- For you, it's not-- - After you bleep --

- After you said that, after you-- - Don't swear at me.

- Don't swear at me. - After you-- Okay.

And you think that I have a real bad attitude.

Okay.

That's how you feel?

What are you saying?

Are you done with us?

What are you do--

You just took me by surprise.

That's all.

Just saying that.

It's just too much, like, you just don't want to feel good.

I'm just like,

anxiety through the roof, like,

- there's nothing but fear. - You just took me by surprise

because I just thought that the way that you worded things,

it made me just think, "Okay, well, we're done, then."

Because in this moment, I can't imagine having a kid, like,

and I'm not gonna pull something out of my ass and be like,

"Yeah, I would be down to be with someone

who 100% wants a kid when I don't want a kid.

Because in this moment, I can't bleep fathom that.

Like, it just depends on where I'm at.

I mean, in a couple years, sure, but like...

I'm not in that place so I don't know.

It's not that I'm being dishonest,

it's that I'm being honest in the moment,

but the-- the moment changes for me.

I'm just a roller coaster.

Sorry.

Are you okay?

Yeah.

- You sure? - Mmm-hmm.

I'm sorry for storming out.

Does it make you feel like you don't wanna continue on with this

since it's a risk?

No, I wanna continue on.

I know this is a risk

to stay in a relationship with Statler

because she could be so adamant in the future that she does not want kids.

But, there is a little bit of hope there

that she might change her mind.

So, I think that

the conversation can be just put on hold for now

because in this moment,

I wanna be with Statler.

I can't imagine life without you.

Yeah, I know.

I hope so.

The weight of us not knowing if we're gonna be compatible children-wise

is hanging over us.

But...

it's something we can't really resolve in this moment.

I am worried to be going home so soon

after this heavily emotional conversation.

Ready?

It's not the way I wanted to leave.

There's just a lot of uncertainty.

I don't want this to continue to weigh on her mind once I'm gone

and make her second guess our relationship.

Well, it's confusing.

When I landed, she text me some things

and then it was-- we ended on goodbye.

I've been home from Vietnam a couple of weeks now.

But, after I returned home,

I got some very nasty text messages from Violet

saying that it's over,

and-and she doesn't want anything to do with m anymore.

You know, to be honest, I wasn't surprised

because we had a lot of ups and downs before I left.

But then, a few days later,

Violet started messaging me again

and to be honest, I don't even know what to do with these mixed signals.

Yeah.

She wrote, "I'm sorry I hurt you.

We can be together.

I really want a husband and a family."

She's acting, like, super nice

and... Where-Where's this coming from?

I thought we were done.

It just doesn't make sense.

Um, I don't know.

Do I still have love for her? Absolutely.

I was-- was truly hurt by her actions

when I visited her, and, uh,

I just don't-- I don't get it.

At this time, I-I really don't know

if this relationship with Violet is fixable.

We both have a lot to work on.

But, when I try to do it in person, she never wanted to talk about it.

So, right now, my plans with Violet

is to just take some time to recoup and to understand,

and to just process everything that's happened in the last couple of weeks.

And then, you know, after that, I just-- I don't know.

Are congratulations in order?

- What's going on? - I--

Am I gonna be an auntie?

Come on.

Last week, Violet text me.

And she told me that she's pregnant.

And, um, the baby is mine.

I only get one chance

to convince the embassy

that my relationship with Gino is genuine.

I am anxious

about this last dinner with Razvan.

In my head, I'm just trying to mentally prepare myself

for what's about to happen.

I feel like I need to know, like,

do you still wanna be in this relationship with me or not?

I'm leaving Romania tomorrow,

and after Razvan and I had our disagreement earlier today,

I'm feeling worried that he's gonna give up on us.

I do feel like me being closed off

has affected mine and Razvan's relationship.

So...

I want to show Razvan you know, my softer side

and that I can be the loving partner that he needs.

And ultimately,

I have to open up and be more vulnerable to Razvan now

because the fate of our relationship depends on it.

Hey.

Hello.

What is this?

Like, a little present.

For what?

Because I love you.

Well...

What?

- Can I open? - Yeah.

I got you this heart pillow.

So you can hug it and remember how much I love you.

And a blanket that you can cuddle with and think of me.

I didn't expect this.

And what is this?

Um, I printed off some pictures of us

so that you can have them around your house.

- I think we should start getting ready for dinner. - - Yeah.

It's our last night together.

So, I'm taking Amanda to a nice restaurant.

And...

I feel like we both need to come to a conclusion,

what we will do.