The Vow

Think about it.

Comfort is like an addiction.

The more we indulge in this addiction,

the more we have to lose.

In the beginning, it was my favorite thing in the world, and I loved it.

But it was just, like, a feeling that I had.

It was like, "You have to get out."

I think he has interesting points,

and it got, you know, it got me thinking about stuff.

He's trying to win you over and keep you right now.

That day I allowed myself to like question,

"What the fuck is going on here?"

This is a group for women only.

Which I did approve.

I believe that you are at the head of it.

I'm not at the head of it.

Questioning him felt like I'd questioned everything about myself.

Were you ever invited?

Well each time I was invited,

I can't speak of that.

Sarah tells me that she is in this thing.

That it's called DOS, and they branded me.

Ok.

Mmhmm.

Mmhmm.

Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

I said, "It's important. Please call me back."

I can't believe she went through that.

What the fuck? Yeah. That's terrible.

Sarah?

Hi.

I want to talk about the thing you texted me.

Sarah?

Sarah?

Yeah.

So, I...

You're having a panic attack, Sarah.

You've having a panic attack, yeah.

So sorry.

I, I understand.

No...

So, this is my first year or 2 of curriculum.

It's uncomfortable for me to see it now.

"Success is an internal state

"of clear, honest knowledge of what I am,

"my value in the world, and my responsibility

"for the way I react to all things.

"There are no ultimate victims,

therefore I'll not choose to be a victim."

That is a key foundational piece for the rest of ESP.

Like, why are you a victim to it?

Why, why don't you get in there and change it?

All emotions are triggered

by the recognition of the difference between

the way we want the world to be,

and the way the world is.

You will become aware that you choose your emotional

and behavioral responses

in all situations.

This is what we refer to as being "at cause."

When you're at cause,

everything that you feel, you cause.

So, no one else can make you feel any way.

I can change my state.

That is a huge, beautiful shift to have,

that I can, I can feel whatever I want, anytime.

Yes.

That's it. Yeah.

It took a few years to crystallize

from helping me to, "this is gonna be my business,"

um, 'cause I didn't start making money right away.

The stripe path... it was just a means,

it was a vehicle for me to grow in a measurable way.

So, for example, if you wanted to earn commission,

you were to enroll, on average, 1 person a month

into minimum, a 5day.

I heard you're one of the top sales people.

True story.

I went up the stripe path very quickly.

Come on, come on, come on, come on!

It's my competitive nature.

Barbara Bouchey was the best salesperson in the company.

She invested in me.

Saw my sales. Nurtured them.

It's all marketing.

So, are you gonna be part of marketing, or not?

She would even fly me to Albany

when I didn't have any money to get trained with Keith.

Imagine if I found a way to cure cancer.

I can't run up and down the road and yell,

"I cured cancer! I cured cancer!"

And the whole world will rejoice.

I need credibility. Right?

You're going to tell someone you're gonna better their life.

Right?

Who are you competing against?

Everyone in the universe.

You better be good.

I keep drawing a blank. That's ok.

And I know I'm giving you unbearable grief.

It's ok. But...

if you could do it here, you can do it in New York.

I know. I should know this. Um...

Alright. Who's ready to have fun?

Yeah. Woo! Alright. Ok.

So, in order to have fun, we don't want anyone to get hurt.

Raniere: No, it's... Right?

No, not fun enough.

Who here is here to have fun?

Fun?

Come on. Fun?

There you... Ok.

Ok. You should be trying to

turn up their energy level. Ok.

When the audience gives you the signal that they got it,

you move, you move, you move.

Ok, what's this?

9. Ok.

How could I... How could I make this

into a representation of the number 6 with one line?

What I was sold on and what I sold other people was that

they could be the best, ideal version of themselves.

How many times are we limited of not seeing the curvy line

because we think it must be, should be, is, believe it to be straight.

Throw the curtain away from the little guy in "The Wizard of Oz." Right?

We were taught that this is...

it is manipulative, but it's a good manipulation.

You first have to establish for them

how valuable their dream is.

I need to solicit what you need

to even say, "This is how much it costs."

That's what this is about.

How much is it worth to know the little guy in your life?

How much do dropins, uh, cost?

What's the price of what we offer?

Let's say 20 bucks a week.

Now, if you were able to take

as many of those 2-hour classes a week...

Like, unlimited classes.

How much would you pay to be able to take as many as you want?

What's the price of not having it?

And what I believe from what you've told me, Mr. Jones,

is that not only do you have dreams,

but you're the sort of person, it sounds like,

you have a real passion toward your dreams,

and that your dreams are important to you.

I can't imagine that you would sell them for $10 a day.

Sell 'em away.

It's not a question of if we can be a hundred million dollar business.

It's a question of the how.

And how long do you wanna take, and how do you wanna take it,

and how do you wanna do it. Not if.

I was excited about making an actual living.

I mean, up until this point, I was bringing in thousands of dollars to the company.

No, I hear you.

Yeah.

Mmhmm.

Mmhmm.

This is Nancy and her daughters, Lauren and Michelle.

There's a Jewish term...

Do you know what mishpachah is?

Mishpachah means family.

And when you meet someone, it's like, mishpachah.

So, hi.

Uh, is everybody staying for stimulus response,

or we're doing 2?

I think I met Lauren in Albany.

Thank you.

She was the head of education, and I loved having her teach,

because she'd do it in a very cool way.

At the time I met her,

Nancy had talked her up to me a fair bit.

You know, how much I'd love her, you know,

we're both interested in theater...

I think we have a couple of, um,

NXIVM's top 10 most sexy men in our cast.

She was just over a year older than me.

My mom and her mom are both therapists.

We were so similar.

When I came to Albany, we'd go get our nails done

before intensives. We'd shop.

Yay!

It's equivalent of my therapist and superior.

And best friend. It's a very bizarre combination.

And that's who I EMed with. That's who I trusted the most.

Most EMs lead back to a memory,

and it's looking at the belief system that causes reactions.

All the facilitator has to do is fill in missing information

of logic that you didn't have when you were a kid.

The camera's gonna focus onscreen. I'm gonna turn this mic on.

Today what we're gonna do is learn how to explore meaning,

but before we can learn how to explore meaning,

we have to have a good understanding

of the surface structure versus the deep structure.

Like, you know, this cup.

Definition of a cup is...

You can use it to carry, contain, to hold things.

Meaning of it may be this is my favorite cup.

It's a very special cup. It's my... You know,