Dying (Sterben)

You have to believe in your heart.

Do whatever comes into your heart.

You have to do what you really want what you feel in your heart.

You have to repeat that.

You have to compare your heart with your feelings.

You have to know what you want,

do something quiet and not something frantic, like looking around.

You have to listen to your true nature.

- Hello, this is Tom Lunies Messages after the tone. please. - Tom?

It's... It's your mom. Call me back, please. It's about Dad.

Hello?

Hello?

Hello?

Your husband,

- he was in my apartment again. - Yes, Gerd wanted to get help.

- I didn't understand him, he had no underpants on. - I told him not to do it.

- And I was worried. - We're not doing so well at the moment.

Can I help you?

No, you don't have to.

- I... I'm just going to rest here for a while. - OK, fine. OK.

Have you called a doctor?

Yes. Yes.

Lissy?

Lissy?

Gerd, I'm here.

This can't go on much longer, Mrs. Lunies.

- Thank you. We'll manage. - Will you?

Thank you!

Gerd!

- What are you doing? You don't want to shower now, do you? - We have to go!

Go? Where do we have to go?

Get out, everything's wet.

Come on, Gerd, get out of there.

Out, out, out.

OK, good. Don't slip.

Go into the kitchen, take your pills, OK?

- Did you take your pills? - Yes.

I've no idea which ones go where.

- Yes. - Hi, Mom. Sorry, there's so much going on right now.

How are you both? Did Ellen call you?

Dad's... Dad's... Dad's not well.

He keeps going outside naked.

I can't do anything about it.

- He doesn't listen to me. - Has it gotten worse?

Yes, it's gotten much, much worse.

Shit!

There's lots going on here as well.

Liv had her baby.

Are they OK? Mom and baby?

Yes, everyone's fine.

I was there.

I helped deliver it.

Too bad it's not yours.

Listen, Mom, that's not...

- Are you back together now? - Not for ten years, Mom.

Does she still not like the baby's father?

Mom... Is there anything I can do for you?

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to...

- But it's not a pleasant situation, is it? - Do you want me to come?

Could you? You always have to work so much.

Yes, I always have to work. But I...

Listen... I have a few things to sort out, then I'll get back to you.

I'll call you soon and we'll arrange something.

OK, Tom, that's what we'll do. Fine.

OK.

Yeah, OK.

- I'll call you tomorrow. - Take care.

- You OK? - Yes.

- Good. You too. I'll be in touch. - Tom?

- Yes. I'll call you tomorrow. - Take care, Tom.

Gerdi.

You're not supposed to drive anymore.

Move over.

But you'll have to be my eyes, mine are dreadful.

You can give me the stick.

There's a cyclist coming from the left.

Now there's a car coming from the right.

OK. You can go now.

- Step on the gas. - Uh-huh.

There's a parked trailer up ahead.

Watch out! Kid! Kid!

Hi, Mrs. Lunijes. How are you today?

Lunies. Pretty good today. Come in.

- Shall I come in too, make some coffee? - No, thanks.

Please go through.

You know where the living room is.

I can look after my visitor on my own.

He isn't a visitor, Mrs. Lunies. He's from the health insurance.

- How many times has he been here? - Three times.

So, you have to make a bad impression, not a good one, if you want more money.

And you need more money.

- Oh, God, what's that? - Gerd painted it.

- Didn't your daughter want to join us today? - Yes.

And how long for your daily personal hygiene?

Half an hour... Or an hour.

Mr. Lunies can't shower on his own. Neither of them can, really.

Right, Mrs. Lunies?

So, how long? Half an hour or a whole hour?

- Let's say 45 minutes. But you use the toilet on your own? - Yes.

I need two minutes if I have to pee,

and eight minutes if I have to poop.

That's not enough for us to increase your care level.

But things have gotten worse.

- I need your help. - We're giving you help.

You already get 364 euros a month.

Your current needs don't justify an increase.

- I also have to deduct a certain margin. - A certain margin?

Understandably, our clients tend to exaggerate their problems during these interviews.

- Are you saying that I'm...? Are you saying that I'm lying? - No, no.

- Yes? - No, no.

- Every perception. - Yes? - ...is individual

Ah, individual. That's lying, then?

I didn't say that. And please don't get upset, Mrs... Mrs...

Lunies! They're both called Lunies. How naive are you?

She's trying to make a good impression, not a bad one!

And why? She's ashamed that she shits her pants every night!

No, not every night.

- Is that true? You're trying to make a good impression...? - Of course she is!

Well, we believe that someone

who's able to make a good impression on others

- ...is able to look after themselves - You can't be...

Lissy? Lissy?

When... When's that woman going to leave?

Soon, Gerdi. The woman will be leaving soon.

Gerd.

Gerd. Gerd.

Help. Help. Gerd!

Help!

Help!

Help! Help!

Help!

Help!

Mrs. Lunies?

- Help! - Mrs. Lunies?

Mrs. Lunies?

Oh, God!

Shit!

Oh, God! Mrs. Lunies?

Mrs. Lunies? Mrs. Lunies?

- Stroke? Heart attack? - Help!

I'll get a doctor. I'll get a doctor. I'll get a...

Hello?

Hello!

Hi.

Feeling better?

- Um... - Just air. Or something solid?

It's from the pills. My mom had that, too.

Where's Gerd?

We've taken him to a Red Cross care home just round the corner.

Short-term care for now.

He has his own room. He's doing well.

I could help you from now on. I'm always nearby.

I could check on you three times a day, and... you can always call me... if...

I could do the shopping, maybe the cleaning and...

- Are you a nurse? - No.

- I used to be a hairdresser. - I see.

Maybe you could do my hair.

But I can't do it for free.

My late husband was self-employed and didn't leave me anything. I don't need much...

- Five euros an hour. - Ten. - Eight.

It's not about the money for me. I just have to...

All right. Eight.

OK.

Mr. Lunies! You're supposed to stay in the care home.

- Where's Lissy? - In hospital.

We took her to hospital because she had a heart attack.

- Hospital? - Yes.

- No. - Yes! Come on, I'll take you back.

Come on now.

But I have to help Lissy. She's not feeling well.

- I think she's had a heart attack. - That's right, a heart attack.

But let's go downstairs and put some clothes on, Mr. Lunies.

That's... That's why I have to help Lissy.

I have to help her.

- I didn't know you could play the piano. - Well, I can't.

I never had lessons. We didn't have the money for that.

But I always played the accordion for the children.

And I've always been able to play-things off the radio straight away by ear.

Tom got that from me, the music.

Gerd can't stay in pitch.

At Christmas in church, I always sat away from him, he couldn't stop:

"Oh, merry Christmas! Oh, merry Christmas!"

Tea?

No, I don't like tea.

What else? Juice?

Another thing, Mrs. Lunies...

Gerd often comes over from the home.

Why?

He has a permanent place there now, he knows that.

But he often walks over here and wants to come in.

- Sometimes I let him in. - How often does he come?

Every day, really.

- Is he allowed to? - Sure.

It's not a prison. They can't keep him there.

If he wants to go out, he can.

I'd just wish they'd make sure he's wearing something warm.

It's starting to get colder now.

I know he'll be glad to see you're back.

I have to go upstairs and hang up the washing.

I'll check back later, OK?